Personal Principles

Well, my week has been somewhat uneventful.  After editing my previous entry more than I can count, and I don't want to.  I was in the midst of preparing for a coffee date for Friday morning.  I had corresponded with a gentleman last Sunday, and we had set to meet for coffee the following Friday morning at 8:30.  We had not picked a place to meet, and I had not given him my name.  So, I sent this man an email on Monday morning. I never received a response, even after he was on the website that morning.  I gave this man grace, he was a teacher at UCCS, and he may have been extremely busy with grades and so on.

Tuesday and Wednesday came and went . . .  nothing.  So, I made up my mind that if he communicates with me on Thursday, I would let him know that I was no longer interested.  You, see, I believe if a man wants to do something with a woman, you plan it ASAP.  I gave this man until midnight on Wednesday.  After that, I did not want to meet a man who waits until the last minute to make plans, especially for the first date.  Not happening. 

Well, he did contact me on Thursday afternoon and sent me an email.  He asked me how my day was going.  I didn't even get a response to my questions, or even a are we still up for coffee tomorrow?  Nothing.  Well, this cheeky is not having any of that!  So, I replied to his email with my thanks, but no thanks message.  Which goes something like this, "Thank you, for your interest.  I hope you find your match.  Blessings in your search."  Done.

I feel pretty good for standing up for my personal principles.  This man is over 50 years of age, and in all those years that he was married and now divorced, he learned absolutely nothing?!  I am afraid that this is becoming the norm.  It is sad, but true. 

As a woman I need to remind myself that I am worthy of the work.  I am worthy of the trouble.  I have value and that includes my time.  The thing is this man knew he blew it, because after I sent him the e-mail, within minutes he signed off from the website. 

I am not trying to be smug about this whole situation, but come on!  If a man asks a woman out on a date, keep the lines of communication open.  And, stop being a wussy!